Find The Perfect Valentine’s Day Gifts For Men Using Their Love Language

I have a suspicion that Valentine’s Day is geared more toward us gals than the guys. Think about the really popular gifts for this holiday: chocolate, flowers, jewelry, and dinner. Those four gifts really do speak my love language! But that doesn’t mean you can’t find the perfect Valentine’s Day gifts for men.

But just in case you think I’m over-generalizing, I will say Valentine’s Day really is a great time to express our love for our husbands in ways that speak his love language. I will admit, I’ve been known a time or two to get a gift for hubby that we both can benefit from, but I have gotten better through the years at listening to what he doesn’t say as much as, if not more than, what he does say, and I now try to give gifts that focus only on him.

Way back in 1995, Dr. Gary Chapman published a book titled The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts. In the book, Chapman outlines five different “languages,” or expressions, in which spouses can “speak” to their spouse. That books remains a classic resource for couples (and friends) to learn to express a love language in healthy ways.

For us ladies on Valentine’s Day, it’s up to us to figure out which language is the most predominant language our husbands speak, and then the goal is to find ways to communicate to that language in such a way it says loud and clear, “I love you.”

This list of Valentine’s Day gifts for men outlines those five love languages and then provide a few gift ideas.

Don’t worry, we also have a few Valentine’s Day gift ideas for women, too!

Find The Perfect Valentine’s Day Gifts For Men Using Their Love Language

Is your husband’s love language physical touch and closeness?

• If so, consider these gift ideas:
• a back rub
• cuddling in front of the fireplace
• a couple’s bubble bath or shower
• a hotel getaway that leads to lots of physical touch and closeness
• Give your husband a card in the morning announcing he will be receiving 100 touches that day. Then get started! From touching his hand as you pour his coffee, to putting your arm around his shoulder, to an extended hug as he leaves for work, be super intentional about giving lots of touches throughout the day.

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Is your husband’s love language words of affirmation?

If so, consider these ideas:

• Express words of gratitude and appreciation.
• Express words of encouragement.
• Express words of humility.
• Express words of respect.
• Express words of empathy.

How you choose to express those words vary, from a hand-written letter, to a wooden sign or poster for his office, to verbal affirmations, to a collage, and more. This love language belongs to my husband, and I’m constantly looking for ways to express in words that I believe in him, he has what it takes, and I admire and appreciate all he does for our family.

One of the most important things to remember is to be genuine and sincere in your words.

Is your husband’s love language quality time?

If so, consider these ideas:

• Buy two tickets to a game, movie, or concert.
• Play a game he likes, whether it’s a video game, a board game, or even a sports game. Take the challenge, lighten the mood, and tell him you love him with your time.
• Enjoy a meal together, just the two of you.*
• Put the kids to bed early and the two of you just sit and talk.*

* The goal is to give your loved one your undivided attention. Seriously, put the phone away, turn off the television, make eye contact, and express with your body language, “I’m 100% engaged with you right now. You have my undivided attention.”

Is your husband’s love language acts of service?

If so, consider these ideas:

• Do that one chore he just can’t seem to get to, such as sweeping out the garage or taking the car to get the oil changed.
• Prepare him his favorite meal.
• Buy or make him his favorite dessert. If it’s ice cream, buy a pint of the expensive stuff.
• Perform the one household chore that bugs him when it’s undone. For example, my husband hates dirty dishes stacking up in the sink. Whenever I clean those dishes and the kitchen, he absolutely notices.

Is your husband’s love language receiving gifts?

If so, consider these ideas:

• Buy him tickets to the game, movie, or concert, but let him choose who he wants to take with him.
• Purchase him a new item of clothing. My husband enjoys an every-now-and-then addition to his wardrobe.
• Subscribe him to his favorite magazine, buy him the latest Grisham book (or any book), or buy him some sort of service subscription such as a shaving subscription, a sock or tie subscription, or a meal subscription.
• Purchase that tech gift or sports gift.
• Consider a week of smaller gifts that lead up to Valentine’s Day, such as a pack of gum, his favorite snack, an iTunes card, a coffee shop gift certificate, or a new ball cap with the logo of his favorite saying or sports team.

Follow this list and you’re sure to find the perfect Valentine’s Day gifts for men!